Seeing myself through
someone else’s eyes
Finally seeing myself
I never thought I would be working as a Mindset Trainer & NLP Practitioner. Who even knew what that was a few years ago!! I work in a space that is so powerfully rewarding because I am teaching people how to ultimately live the life they WANT to live. Over the past couple of years, I have learnt more about myself than ever through the process of my training. From an outsiders point of view, I could come across as a confident woman who had her life together. And probably I did most of the time. It was what was happening inside of me that I struggled with. I was in constant turmoil with myself, hating who I was and striving to be something that I was not.
When depression set in I knew I needed to take back some control and learn who I really was to make me happy. I decided the best way to learn was to see myself through someone else’s eyes, not my own. So my journey began to learn more about me.
Seeing myself through my husband’s eyes!
This man chose me to spend his life with, share his love and be his best friend. My husband is a kind man who has a generous heart and a funny soul. Why would someone who loves me so deeply choose a woman who was also not kind with a generous heart? I knew that I also shared these wonderful characteristics and this made me a beautiful woman. My husband has taught me so much and for this, I will be forever grateful. Seeing myself through the eyes of my husband has given me the courage to pursue a career that is changing lives.
Seeing myself through my children’s eyes!
I know this sounds very cliché but I have been blessed with four gorgeous children. They truly are the loves of my life. They all have very different personalities, different outlooks on life and different dreams. However, they all love with tremendous passion and care with an abundance of empathy. Each child shares a strong bond with me that runs so deep, it often makes me burst with pride. My children see the world for what they can share with it, not what they can take. Why would I have been blessed with such amazing people if I wasn’t a beautiful woman who cared deeply and loved the world she lived in? Seeing myself through the eyes of my children has been a gift – a gift that has given me permission to do my real work in this world.
Seeing myself through my families eyes!
I come from a big family and we all have created wonderful lives and chosen beautiful partners. We share an understanding that life gets busy and sometimes we may not always say the words, but we each know that even through silence, the words of I love you are always there. My family are my tribe and I have such an awesome and encouraging tribe. Why would I be part of this wonderful tribe if I wasn’t a beautiful person and deserved to live an extraordinary life? My family has taught me that I am a beautiful woman with a generous heart which makes me who I am today. Seeing myself through the eyes of my family encourages me to trust in myself and believe in my ability.
Seeing myself through my friend’s eyes!
For the most part, I have chosen well. Friends are like the family you choose for yourself. I have surrounded myself with some of the most amazing, inspirational and devoted people and I’m honoured they have loved me back. My friends have allowed me to make decisions about myself and not judge me along the way. The friends who have left my life were there for a reason and I have learnt so much from them. The friends who are here for a lifetime, thank you for sticking around. These people have shown me I am a beautiful woman and deserve all I attract in life. Seeing myself through my friend’s eyes has helped me understand just how deep love can go and why connections are so essential to a wonderful life.
It is a wonderful exercise to learn how to see yourself through someone else’s eyes. It helps to remove the internal negativity we often see and start looking outside of ourselves. Try it and let me know how you go.
Love Always
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Love this. Thanks for sharing such beautiful insights about yourself.
When I work with clients on recognising their strengths they often balk. Many people can’t recognise their own fabulousness. So I have to work with them on seeing themselves through their family and friends eyes. It is a great exercise. Yours takes it one step further.
I never studied Neuro Linguistic Programming. But I do appreciate its power. I’ve looked into it.
PS Just watched a Law and Order episode which had NLP at its core. Scary when people use that power for evil rather than good.
Ohhh I loved to watch it. The power of understanding who you really are by looking at the beautiful people around you can change your long, negative beliefs. Pretty eye opening.
Ohhh I loved to watch it. The power of understanding who you really are by looking at the beautiful people around you can change your long, negative beliefs. Pretty eye-opening.
I love this idea and your insights. I’m going to have to give this a go!
And I bet you will see an amazing woman
Congratulations Natalie, because in the time I have been connecting with you on-line I can sure notice the changes in you and the many ways in which you reach out to help others too. Sending my love and appreciation for your support. You are a gem! Denyse x
Oh thank you lovely lady. I have grown so much over the past 4-5 years and my growing is just getting better and better. I love what I do and I love helping people feel amazing too.
Simply gorgeous post. I’m looking forward to your links each week. I choose to see myself through my dogs eyes… that whole be the person your dog thinks you are thing.
It’s easy to belittle ourselves and let the negative drunk monkey’s in our brain talk us down. I love this idea of looking at ourselves through the eyes of other. Loved this post 🙂
Thanks Johanna. I used to always see only what I wasn’t good at but if I look at reasons other people love me – I can see what they see too.
Natalie, what a beautiful way of looking at your friends. The family you choose for yourself. They are luck to have you!
SSG xxx
I read that saying years ago and it has always resonated with me. Even though I come from a big family, you can never have enough love around you.
I look forward to your links each Thursday. Whose eyes do I try & see myself through? My dog’s. Whenever I get an attack of the not good enoughs I see her fabulous doggy grin & know that I am.
Ohhhh I never even thought about my dog. A pet is by far one of the best ways – especially dogs as they love unconditionally.
What a great idea! Years ago I did some personal coaching that required me to ask people who knew me (family and friends from memory) to answer questions about me – positives and negatives – and it was really eye-opening. Things I thought were negatives they saw as positives. (And – strangely – vice versa!)
That is a fantastic exercise. Often what we think is a negative in ourselves is usually what makes us so special.
As they say, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. We always see ourselves a little more negatively than others do. perhaps it’s human nature.
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It probably is human nature but that is pretty sad isn’t it.