I’ll be happy when…
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I’ll be happy when…
Happiness is an emotion many people spend their life striving to achieve. So what is the secret to the pursuit of happiness?
Was Buddha right when he claimed there is no path to happiness… happiness is the path?
Or was Gandhi more accurate when he shared happiness as a time what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony?
What about the Dalai Lama – Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions?
Or happiness as seen through Abraham Lincoln – Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.
Happiness is not a goal that can be achieved and then ticked off the to-do list. Happiness is simply an emotion that takes over the body and this feeling starts and ends with the thoughts you have in your head. So in theory, if you change your thoughts, you can also change your feelings and achieve happiness today. A few words can alter the mindset and therefore cause a ripple effect in the results achieved.
Think back at a time when you felt truly happy, at peace with yourself and with the world.
Have you ever said to yourself:
- “I’ll be happy when I am skinnier.”
- “I’ll be happy when I have more money.”
- “I’ll be happy when I am married.”
- “I’ll be happy when I have children.”
When you are living life choosing that another moment will make you happier than the moment you are currently in, you are denying yourself the opportunity to be truly happy now. The future moment may never come. The skinny body may never eventuate. The money may never be in your bank account. The partner of your dreams may never be found. Children may not be gifted to you. If these things never happened, will you be spending your entire life, the only life you have wishing you were living in any other moment than the present?
When Buddha talks about happiness being the path, it is the journey of your life. Through each moment, you have the choice as to how you feel about the moment and therefore the you have control of your happiness.
When the Dalai Lama says happiness comes from your actions, it is because your behaviour is a result of your perception of what your life really means. When you understand your thoughts cause feelings and feelings encourage action (or lack of action).
When Gandhi talks about the 3 elements – think, say & do being in harmony, it is the moment you are at peace with your true self and your place in the world.
Abraham Lincoln’s words are pure and simple – your ability to be happy is something you have right now, if you choose it.
It is easy to get confused about happiness as we have been taught happiness comes from external things. Advertising campaigns tell us that if we buy this dress, we will be happy. If we lose weight and eat these foods, we will be happy. If we have a clean house or a new car or 2.4 children and live in a house with a white picket fence, we will be happy.
I call BS!!!! External things might give us a buzz if instant happiness, or what we perceive to be happiness but to be able to wake each day and feel at peace with yourself and your place in the world ONLY comes from within you. AND the best part is you have the ability to be as happy or unhappy as you choose to be.
Do ever feel like you have been emotionally hijacked by someone? Are you feeling hurt because of someone else? Have you handed over your emotional life to someone else? If you have answered yes to any of these questions, you may be struggling with emotional immaturity. Emotional immaturity is when blame is the reason for the way you feel. It is someone else’s fault that you are feeling unloved, anxious or miserable. Emotional maturity is when you begin to take responsibility for your own emotions. If your thoughts influence the way you feel and the thoughts are your own, then you have the ability to take responsibility for your emotions. This concept can be a little confusing when you start to practice it but once understood, it is like winning the emotional life lottery.
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